“my mom told me i can do whatever i want and be whatever i want to be, no one has ever told me no before, if you tell me i can’t do something because i’m white you must be a hateful racist bigot. you don’t understand how hard it is for me when you tell me i can’t do something even though i can basically do whatever i want and 99% of people will just let it slide or actively encourage my every action.” - white teens
…that approach is stupid on princible.
No one can be whatever they want. No one can do whatever they want. Dreams rarely ever come true even if we work hard enough or believe in ourselves.
And telling that to your kids is stupid and only leads to problems.